Getting vocal during sex is a huge turn-on for many men and you'll find it can be one for you too. Learning to talk dirty sets your mind on fire, and can be one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs we have. Men adore your adulation and want to know what turns you on. They crave your creativity. Talking dirty is not about swearing like a sailor or screaming like a porn star. Rather, it's about talking from the heart (and maybe a few other places). When it's authentic, sex talk will feel hot, not silly.