Switching up the sensory experience during sex is as easy as hot and cold. Using the two temperatures wakes up nerve endings, boosts arousal, and might even trigger some feel-good endorphins in the brain. Surprising the body with new sensations during sex can be a novel experience...

To turn up the heat, start with your breath. Breathe right onto his skin. The warm moisture of your breath will feel excellent on his more sensitive parts – his ear, neck, inner wrist, lower back, or anywhere around the genitals. Don't touch him just yet, but bring your lips oh-so-close to his skin, and use only your breath to stimulate him.

When you do start to touch him, with your mouth or your fingers, a ready bowl of ice cubes and a cup of hot water can have endless direct-contact possibilities. Try putting the ice cube in your mouth, and then kiss him. Switch then to a sip of hot water and go right back to the same spot. The contrast will feel amazing! You can do the same with your hands – hold the ice in one and warm up the other.

Other temperature tempters to try: frozen grapes, hot chocolate, warm washcloths, and ice cream. Let your senses guide you, and keep trying new things. Hot or cold, you're sure to make his temperature rise!