Sex & Relationships
How To Give Him A Sensual Massage
Give Him A Sensual Massage
Teach your man how to treat you to a sensual massage. There are a few essential ingredients, but the rest is up to him and his imagination!
Sensual massages don't need to be pricey either – you can use body lotion instead of the more expensive essential oils. The most important part of a sensual massage is atmosphere – you need a quiet room, preferably your bedroom (no kids, no TV, no distractions).
Turn off the lights and create a soft glow with some scented candles placed in strategic positions. Place a towel on the bed, or swap the sheets so that you don't have to worry about the oils ruining your 400-thread-count Egyptian cotton sheets.
Remember, smell is an incredibly important sense. Make sure the room is filled with a relaxing scent such as lavender or vanilla – you can use incense or even freshly picked (or bought) lavender flowers.
Put on some music in the background. Make sure it's not hard-core punk rock, but something smooth like light jazz, or R&B.
When you begin the massage, put some lotion or oils into your hands and rub them together to warm up before you touch your partner. Now glide your palms all over your partners body – from neck to back to feet – put your body weight behind the movement, but don't press down too hard.
Don't allow your hands to become dry and sticky, the movement must be smooth, so add some more lotion and oils when necessary.
You can also feed your partner some decadent chocolate during the massage to awaken the sense of taste. Another important thing is to maintain skin contact at all times. If you really want to be sexy, massage your partner naked.
You can also swap positions half way through and allow your partner to massage you. Just enjoy the closeness of your bodies and use your senses to enhance the moment. Smell the essential oils, the incense and your partner's unique scent. Taste the chocolate, get lost in the mood music and feel the touch. Let it be an all-round sensual experience!
About this blog

Hi, I am Leandie Buys, a qualified clinical sexologist, relationship and trauma counsellor. After working for the SAPS, I realised that my purpose in life is to help heal relationships that have been torn apart by lack of knowledge about sexual concerns and miscommunication. I regard sexual health as vital to your personal wellbeing and in order for you to have healthy, successful relationships, you need to be aware of the various concerns that can affect your sex life. I look forward to giving you advice and the latest updates on sexual health over the next few months.








Ladies, don't forget to vary the massage experience using palms, then knuckles, fingertips, arms (wrist to elbow), chin and chest in a myriad of different combinations. If it feels good for you, no doubt he will also be enjoying it. You can also blow lightly or forcefully on the skin - air massage !
The most successful massage lube is Epizone E as it is good for sensitive skins, does not become sticky, does not burn or irritate the genital area and can be used very successfully as a sexual lube.
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