The art of fooling around is unfortunately lost for most of us after high school. Sometimes, though, instead of saying "not tonight, honey", you can help your partner get the satisfaction he seeks by recalling those old moves.

There are a range of alternate activities that can be the essence of compromise when he wants sex and you don't. Rather than the usual excuses (you're too tired or have your period), get a little creative. Just acting sexy as he self-stimulates can work. Or stroke his chest, snuggle up next to him, and run your hands through his hair. If there's a favourite bra or nightgown of yours he likes, throw it on, too.

There are also many manual and oral techniques you can put to use. In fact, taking intercourse out of the equation can refresh your sexual repertoire completely. You may find yourself doing things you haven't done in years – and feeling young all over again!