Q: My ex dumped me, but he keeps asking to hang out. Why is he acting this way?

A: Well, it depends on what he wants to do when you hang out. If he wants to chat about other women he's interested in, then he's insensitive, dumb and lacking male friends (also a bad thing). If he wants to be "close" to you, that's code for getting naked again, but without the commitment. If he wants to braid your hair and paint your toenails, then he was probably gay in the first place. I'd wager that if it's a recent break-up, he's probably at a loose end and you're the closest or easiest person to call on. If it’s been a while, maybe he really does want to be friends.

Bottom line: unless you live in a lighthouse, you probably don't need this friendship. As a general rule, break-ups need to be absolute – no hanging out, "just friends", texting, emailing – in order for both parties to lick their wounds and move on. Whether his intentions are harmless, noble or knavish, I'd recommend closing the door (gently and civilly) and moving on to someone who really appreciates you. After all, he dumped you.