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why have i never had a relationship?
Q: Why Have I Never Had A Boyfriend?
Q: I'm 21 years old, tall, blonde and female. I want to know why I've never had a man be serious about me?
A: Many women are perfectionists in all parts of their lives, and romance is no exception. They have perfect homes, perfect wardrobes, perfect organizational skills – and a perfectly empty bed. It's possible to idealize love and relationships to such a degree that no mortal man will live up to your standards. If you're too picky, the men you meet will always come up short.
Of course, some fantasizing is good for you. You set the bar for love high and refuse to settle for just anyone – and that's great. However, it's possible for those standards to become completely unrealistic.
If you find yourself dating, dating, and dating, but never feeling that "click," it may be time to turn that microscope around. What could you improve on your end? Are you giving these guys a chance? Are you all of the things you expect in a mate?
Sometimes, too-high standards can signal a deeper problem. "He's just not good enough," can be a convenient excuse for avoiding real intimacy. If your standards seem to be standing in the way of meeting the right guy, spend some time getting to know yourself. You just might find the root of why you haven't found a good match.
Last updated: April 14, 2010 - 12:54
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Strangely enough,I once followed that advice,that I ought to give the unlikely types a chance,whatever it is I mean by unlikely.it was one disaster after another,it made me feel short-changed,embittered and used.I then swore to myself that I would never do that to myself again.I longed to have intimacy,in all levels,I know my shortcomings and constantly work on improving myself,but in the end ...which leads me to conclude that it was not meant to be in the first place.I was a trophy to them,something to brag about to their friends,so,really it was my fault?I beg to differ.I have since told myself,I would focus on myself,as I always have.the current one has potential,but I am just taking it day by day.
Strangely enough,I once followed that advice,that I ought to give the unlikely types a chance,whatever it is I mean by unlikely.it was one disaster after another,it made me feel short-changed,embittered and used.I then swore to myself that I would never do that to myself again.I longed to have intimacy,in all levels,I know my shortcomings and constantly work on improving myself,but in the end ...which leads me to conclude that it was not meant to be in the first place.I was a trophy to them,something to brag about to their friends,so,really it was my fault?I beg to differ.I have since told myself,I would focus on myself,as I always have.the current one has potential,but I am just taking it day by day.I mean,a mature person knows that there is no such a thing as a perfect match,it is unrealistic to expect that!
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