By Whitney Harris
If you’re capable of one, you’re definitely capable of more…
For some women, having one orgasm during sex is enough to make them want to thank their lucky stars – or at least give themselves a solid pat on the back. But you might be surprised to know that if you can reach one O, you’re probably capable of having lots more immediately after – or, as the pros call it, multiple orgasms. Seriously! Find out why you’ve never experienced it before and how you can start feeling ahhhmazing over and over again.
What Research Says About Your Orgasm
Studies conducted by influential sex researchers William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian and published in Human Sexuality: An Encyclopedia in the mid-’90s indicate that women who orgasm need a mere one or two minutes, on average, to reach their second climax. (The most female orgasms they observed was an impressive 134 in just 60 minutes!)
Similarly, sex researchers Shere Hite and Alfred Kinsey did some work (in the 1970s and 1950s, respectively) that points to the female potential for multiple orgasms. Unfortunately, there isn’t more recent research out there on this subject. But Vivienne Cass, author of The Elusive Orgasm, says her clinical experience indicates that having multiple orgasms is indeed possible for all women who can cross the finish line.
“Many women are quite able to experience five to seven [in a row] easily,” says Cass. “[But] while all women may have the potential to have multiple orgasms, the reality is that many do not.”
Why Aren’t We All Having Marathon Orgasm Sessions?
A number of things get in the way for most of us: Cass says they can range from having a partner without the best skills to feeling uncomfortable taking the time and effort to try for multiple orgasms to being too tired. If you can address those issues, however, there’s a good chance you can peak several times – at least theoretically speaking.
Try This At Home
The big trick is not to overstimulate the clitoris, which is easy to do given the sheer number of nerve endings it has, says Dawn Michael, certified clinical sexologist, relationship expert and author of A Couples Guide to Better Sexual Intimacy. So once you’ve orgasmed and your clit is very sensitive and engorged, turn your focus toward your vagina. (Make sure it’s wet and swollen before you insert fingers, a sex toy or a penis. If you need it, use a pH-balanced lubricant to help.)
As soon as the most intense part of the initial orgasm is over, Cass recommends gently touching yourself – or asking your partner to – to keep the pleasurable sensations going. You can even wait a few moments for the arousal to slightly subside and then get back to touching if that feels good to you. Allow yourself to mentally relax and talk to your partner without focusing on trying to have another orgasm – but be sure to let your him or her know that you want to try for another, either by saying it directly or placing his hand on your vagina to maintain body contact.
Then, do some exploratory work to find out what may get you off again. Slowly allow the arousal to rebuild by touching yourself in places that weren’t stimulated the first time around or by letting your partner do it for you.
Stronger PC muscles can also help keep the area tight and more easily primed for arousal. Michael recommends investing in some weighted beads to make the most of kegel exercises.