Tantric sex sounds intimidating (or best left to Sean Diddy Combs, who has been known to tweet about his 10-hour sex marathons), but taking some tips from the ancient practice sets you up for electrifying full-body orgasms that you can feel from your fingertips down to your toes. And who wouldn’t want that?
1 / THINK BIG
Stop focusing only on what you’re feeling below the belt. “Imagine all that energy running up your spine, down your arms into your hands and up into the top of your head,” says Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex For The Twenty-First Century. “Once you learn to open yourself up, you can let more sexual energy flow through you.”
2 / BREATHE
It’s natural to hold your breath when you’re on the brink of climax, but Carrellas says you’ll feel a deeper pleasure if you fully inhale and exhale. “Practise while you masturbate,” she says.
3 / SCREAM AND SHOUT
Or grunt or sigh. Your partner will feel appreciated, but it’s not just for his enjoyment. “In tantra, there are seven different energy centres (or chakras) in the body: perineum, lower belly, upper abdomen, heart, throat, forehead and top of the head,” says Carrellas. “Making higher-pitched sounds brings your sexual energy up to these higher centres, while making lower sounds brings it down.”
4 / DO YOUR KEGELS
Squeezing and releasing the pubococcygeus muscle (the same one you use to stop the flow of urine) in a slow, deep rhythm as intercourse gets more intense will help you orgasm longer and more powerfully.