Sex should culminate in a moment of untamed frenzy coupled with unbridled excitement and intimacy – right? But lack of desire and arousal can be an unwelcome source of sexual frustration for a number of women. So, we’ve come across a solution that could give your regular routine a sweaty, steamy and sticky face lift.

A new drug called Flibanserin is currently being investigated as a possible treatment for decreased sexual desire in pre-menopausal women.

Originally developed as an anti-depressant, the aphrodisiac side effect was apparently discovered when subjects in the human trials of the drug were reluctant to give back the unused medication after the trial was over. You can imagine why.

It will still be a few years before this drug is available in South Africa, so don’t go rushing off to your pharmacy just yet.

Besides, Dr Marlene Wasserman, Cape Town-based clinical sexologist cautions against pinning too much hope on the drug as a panacea for desperate women and their partners. “Female desire is too complex for one drug to make a woman feel sexually interested,” she points out.

Just Open Your Mind

Regardless of their particular take on the subject of female arousal, all the researchers offer the same advice to women: don’t worry, don’t over-think it – open your mind and just go with the moment.

Explore, experiment and notch up your knowledge about what gets you going.

Discover your own dark side (as long as what it holds is safe and consensual). Indulging in what your body and mind naturally crave doesn’t necessarily define your sexual interest, but it may pave the way to even more self-discovery about what turns you on… and make your toes curl.