how to focus on pleasure during sex

While women may naturally be the more benevolent gender, when it comes to claiming bedroom bliss, there’s good reason to get greedy. A study by Canada's Kwantlen Polytechnic University found that the more you focus on your own pleasure during sex, the more satisfied you and your partner will be. That's right, even he wants you to be selfish in the sack. "We were pretty surprised because we set out to provide evidence of the opposite," says study co-author Dr Cory Pedersen. And other sex experts agree that men get off on seeing their partners revelling in ecstasy.

It largely comes down to enthusiasm. A woman who has sex because she craves it is going to be really into the experience, says Pedersen. And that enthusiasm appeals to men for two reasons: first, when you take responsibility for your carnal contentment, he doesn’t have to worry that you’re not enjoying yourself – he can see that you are! And second, the sight of an aroused woman produces more of the sex hormone testosterone in men.

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