How to get what you really want in bed

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When I'm getting it on solo, I imagine my friends having sex with their boyfriends.

Doc says: Beyond your natural curiosity about how your friends fool around may lurk subconscious envy or a competitive streak. A part of you not-so-privately wishes you were a little more like them.

What you need: To focus on your assets, not theirs. Instead of fixating on your friends' haves and have-nots, try to develop in yourself the qualities you admire in them – like the way one pal can socially hold court in front of a gang of strangers or another can make high-stakes decisions in a split-second. Just don’t ignore your fantasy’s naughty side altogether. "You're projecting some of your own desires onto your pals, so be sure to explore those moves with your partner too," Kerner advises. We couldn't agree more.