Sex & Relationships
Find out how many women have cheated
Cheating By Numbers
To cheat, or not to cheat?
Women’s Health International polled 1393 women and asked them to weigh in on cheating. The results might surprise you...
Have you ever been romantically involved with a taken man?
Yes 46.3% No 53.7%
Are there circumstances in which you think cheating with a taken man is justified?
Sure – if a woman wants a man, she should pursue him 9.2%
Yes – but only if he’s planning on leaving his wife/girlfriend 11.5%
No – if a guy is taken, he’s off-limits 79.2%
Do you think Angelina Jolie’s continued popularity is an indication that the Other Woman is being stigmatised less now than in the past?
Yes 67.9% No 32.1%
If you had to be one or the other, who would you rather be?
The mistress 62.6%
The wife who gets cheated on 37.4%
When a guy cheats on his significant other, who is most at fault?
The guy, for breaking his promise 67%
The other woman, for tempting him 1.1%
The wife/girlfriend, for not making him happy 0.8%
All of the above 22.5%
None of the above – these things just happen 8.6%
More Insight from Man Poachers
Was your forbidden fling premeditated or spontaneous?
Premeditated – I was hoping it would happen 32.2%
Spontaneous – it went down in the heat of the moment 67.8%
How long did it last?
A few frantic minutes 10.9%
One night 16.3%
A few weeks 20%
Several months 29.9%
A year or more 22.9%
Do you regret it?
Yes 42.1%
No 57.9%
Did you end up together?
Yes 13.7%
No 86.3%
Why didn’t his commitment to another woman get in the way?
His commitment is his responsibility, not mine 27.1%
I just didn’t think about it 21%
A lot of people get some on the side – no big deal 1.1%
If he’s cheating on her, their relationship will end anyway 10.2%
It bothered me, but not enough to put on the brakes 40.5%
Was he the husband or boyfriend of a woman you knew?
Yes 24% No 76%
What, if anything, do you find appealing about his taken status?
It guaranteed that our relationship wouldn’t get serious 21.7%
The sneaking around made sex extra exciting 15.2%
His status was irrelevant – I just wanted him 43.5%
He treated every minute with me like it was a holiday 19.6%
Would you be less likely to fool around with a friend’s guy than a stranger’s?
Yes – I would never cross that line 83.4%
No – all’s fair in love and war 5.9%
Not if I truly believed he was my soul mate 10.7%
Did the fact that he was cheating on his current partner affect your opinion of him?
Yes – he clearly wasn’t trustworthy 49.6%
No – he was just in a bad relationship 28.9%
No – cheating doesn’t make someone a bad person 21.5%
What Non-Poachers Think
Could you ever imagine yourself being with a married man?
Yes, I suppose it could happen 20.8% No, I would never do that 79.2%
Have any of your girlfriends ever gotten involved with a taken man?
Yes 68.5% No 31.5%
If yes, do you respect her less for it?
Yes 56.7% No 43.3%
Have any of your male friends cheated on their wife or girlfriend?
Yes 79.3% No 20.7%
If yes, do you respect him less for it?
Yes 76.6% No 23.4%










To all those woman that cheat with married men, shame on you!! Have you no principles or pride?
I dont agree with it personally, I would not do it cause I would not like it done to me! But, each to there own, who am I to judge...?
Well, as the saying goes, it takes two!. Both parties have to be willing. If a female/male has no interest in having an extra marital relationship, then they wont. We all want to believe that our partners are to be trusted, but hey, there is nothing more tempting than temptation.
here is a sexist joke - why dont women mess around ?
cos, they dont want to.
why dont men mess around - cos they scared of being caught.
I, in principle, dont mess around, but some married/taken men sure look like they need some loving from someone so giving....
I find these statistics a bit shocking. Cheating is a two way street, but in no way is it justified to be with a taken man because you may believe that it's his issue not yours. If you have so little self respect, you need therapy, not an affair!!!
Women should just respect the unwritten "Sisterhood code" and quit pursuing married/commited men...
Ja well, my ex gf of 2yrs (an editor for one of the m24 sites) cheated on me with her former ex, she got pregnant (at that time i didnt know she was), tried to convince me to have kids before marriage, and when i said no, she dumped me and married ("SHOTGUN!!!") her ex 5 months later. Go figure. She cheated on me, worst than what a man would have cheated.
the way you find your man will be the way you lose your man so for all those women who think that they are going to get their stolen men to leave thier wives/girlfriends just remember you will be left just like the woman before you and i doubt the shoe will be as comfortable when on the other foot.
I find this very interesting since I have a married ex BF who was sleeping with my 19yr old brother on the side. So the tables were turned, she was married but not my brother and expected me to keep their "Affair" quiet. I didnt!!! So I think it doesnt matter whether he is married or she is married but just that you make commitment and you should keep it.
I've been reading the comments posted:
Alicia Mason: 'it's got nothing to do with shame/principle' it got to do with women who want to constantly chirp in their men's ears...so they go out and find women willing to listen, but sometimes your husbands/bf's just love having more than one women...you should have thought about all that before you decided to say i do forever and maybe it's what's written for you i don't think we're supposed to have one partner till eternity and YOU CAN NEVER EVER TRUST SOMEONE SO MUCH THAT IT FEELS YOU HAVE GIVEN THEM YOUR SOUL have you not been thought that...even a man will tell you 'not to trust a man unless they can prove themselves worthy to be trusted'
it does take 2 for an affair to happen namely the husband + wife not seeing to each others needs sexually and emotionally.
the 'sisterhood code' is UNWRITTEN that's why it doesn't matter as long as i don't know you personally!
I was cheated on by my bf that's why i don't care what the other women think...they say payback is a bitch!(no pun/offence intended and who are you to judge...you should judge yourself i.e not doing what you're supposed too for your men
I have had a sexual relationship with a guy and it was flipping awesome,there was so such a sexual attraction between us that we tried to put it aside but eventually gave in...why did we do this: 1)no strings attached on both sides,2)i knew i wouldn't get pregnant,3)he knew he wouldn't be excpected to leave his wife for me,4)it was a very short term thing that we both wanted.
When we where together it was as if the rest of the world didn't matter,we forgot all our worries and zoned out which was damn wonderful even though it was for an hour and a half...we knew exactly each other needed and he knew how 'pleasure' a women first before himself and in turn it was reciprocated by me....it was the best sex ever and don't think any guy could live up to such high standards...ORGANSMIC times 20 is all i can say.
Now for all those women who are reading this and getting your knickers in knot....get ride of them and get more sexy attire and instead of "chirping' at what my thoughts are get off this section and go browse through the rest of whm sex & relationship section to improve yourself/situations...it will do you both good:-)
By the way i don't go after married...stuff just happens and you won't understand what 'just happens' means if you haven't experienced it.
Never say never. it something that happens. have doen it before and i tell you this i never felt guilty about it. it ended because i decided that i wanted it to end i enjoyed it and if i meet a man that i fall in love with married or not i will pursue him and its up to him to rejected or act on his feelings.
If you are married woman not happy with your husband please try to explain to him even though sometimes it doesnt help. But as long as he knows that my wife doesnt like this.May be he will change.
Some background: I'm a man, my parents are divorced, I've ended every long-term relationship I've been in because I felt trapped, so disregard this post if you want to..buuuut...
I don't see love and (SAFE) sex as being related. As long as your sleeping around doesn't physically harm someone else (like rape, STI's, or dipping into your husband/wife's savings for hookers...) then the relationship between love and sex is arbitrary. There's no real reason for them to be related.
In fact, evolutionarilly speaking (thanks to mechanisms such as the Coolidge Effect - if you don't know it, look it up) love and long-term sex SHOULD BE mutually exclusive.
Just be honest! People don't always see things my way, so discuss sexual availability of your relationship AT THE BEGINNING.
If you judge others on their sexual behaviours (whether they sleep around, or are a 60-year old virgin), you deserve the judgment - you're conservative, conforming to beliefs that you didn't develope yourself...you're as bad as a racist. Don't judge, just accept.
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