Three Beginner Sex Toys That Will Introduce You To A World Of Pleasure

Let's start at the very beginning...


Leigh Champanis-King |

We all know that sex toys can add so much to our sex lives. Whether you’re looking to improve your alone time or add an extra bit of buzz to your couple’s play, there’s a sex toy that will do it. But, if you’re new to the game, it can be quite daunting to buy your first toy. There are so many options, it’s hard to know where to start. So, we asked the experts at Désir for some advice on beginner sex toys. Happy shopping!

Beginner Sex Toys
Clitoral massager: Screaming O Scoop Clitoral Vibrator, R999, Desir.co.za

“With so many misconstrued ideas and stigma’s surrounding sex toys and the use thereof, it is understandable that so many people have a fear-based reaction when the idea of using a sex toy is considered or introduced. At Désir, however, we’ve found that sex toys not only promote and encourage a healthy sex life between partners, but also allow for an entirely unique explorative journey when used during solo play.

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Beginner Sex Toys
Clitoral massager: We-Vibe Tango Bullet Vibrator, R1 449, Desir.co.za

“Understanding what you like or don’t like is not often a journey one may undertake openly with a partner, but experimenting on your own can be a very powerful and liberating exercise and allows you to understand your body in your own time. Once you understand your own likes and dislikes, you are more than likely going to be more confident in directing your intimate experience with your partner.

“For solo play, there are endless options ranging from internal massage to dual massage and with such a wide offering, both can be quite overwhelming when choosing your first-time toy. Not everyone enjoys internal stimulation at first, so we suggest starting off slowly and gently by using a simple and user-friendly clitoral massager. Designed to stimulate the clitoris, these female-friendly products are anatomically designed to be held comfortably in your hand, allowing you to direct pleasure exactly where you want it.

“For all-over labia massage, try a broader based clitoral massager (with a wider area surface) that covers your entire vaginal area. The broad shape of these massagers makes sure that the entire breadth and width of your wish-bone-shaped nerves are stimulated and often produce far more intense orgasms than that of a smaller pinpoint clitoral massager.

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Beginner Sex Toys
Dual-stimulator: We-Vibe Nova Flexible Rabbit Vibrator, R2 799, Desir.co.za

“Once you are comfortable with the sensations that an external massager can produce, why not upgrade to a dual-stimulator. This is a vibrator designed to stimulate the internal vaginal walls as well as the clitoral area. With almost 70 percent of women reliant on clitoral massage to experience an orgasm, the dual-stimulating vibrator (like the rabbit) allows you to stimulate your internal and external nerve system at the same time, allowing you to experience deep penetration, external stimulation and powerful orgasms – all at the same time!

“Remember to use a good water-based lubricant with your toy always, as friction can be a real mood killer when it comes to exploring your sensuality.”

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