10 Things All People In Great Relationships Do To Keep It That Way
By Hara Estroff Marano
Follow these rules for the perfect balance in your relationship…
You listen to each other and are emotionally supportive. You both feel invested in the relationship.
You respond to each other’s bids for connection. You both have the ability to emotionally affect the other.
Although there’ll be some times when one of your needs reign supreme, it happens by mutual agreement.
You both see the other as admirable and worthy of kindness in a considerate and team-run relationship.
Each of you retains your own selves, able to be your own person with your own core values.
You both feel free to define and assert what’s important for your relationship and to express your needs and goals.
Each of you is willing to admit weakness, uncertainty and mistakes. Each has the ability to engage and emotionally affect the other.
You both feel responsibilities are divided in ways that support you, both individually and as a team.
Conflicts may occur, but you both make efforts to de-escalate them and calm each other down by taking time-outs
Both of you encourage the well-being of the other physically, emotionally and financially.